Social Learning Through Connection Network
We design events around the question: what happens when you take a normal social norm and deliberately violate it? Turns out — the most interesting stuff.
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Normal social life runs on a bunch of unspoken scripts — be polite, don't get too personal, pretend you're fine, talk about work. Most of the time these scripts are fine. But they also keep things kind of boring.
Each SLTCN event picks one of those rules and deliberately breaks it. What if you had to flirt with everyone? What if you could only share bad experiences? What if you couldn't say your name or your job? The result is always the same: people connect way faster and way deeper than they expected to.
Everyone goes through a short application — not to be snobby about it, just to make sure the room is full of people who are genuinely game.
Every event has a clear premise — one social norm we're going to violate together. The constraint is what makes it interesting.
We pick every room by hand. The right mix of people matters more than the venue, the food, or anything else.
Most people who come to one event come to another. The community grows because the thing keeps being worth showing up to.
These events only work if people feel safe being weird. Privacy is non-negotiable, for everyone.
Past Events
Rule broken: only share good things. Everyone had to bring a negative or uncomfortable experience to give someone else — a terrible taste, an unsettling sound, a painful memory told well. It was the most bonding event we've ever run.
Rule broken: keep interactions polite and neutral. Everyone was required to flirt in every interaction — with the bartender, the person next to them, everyone. Turns out when flirting is mandatory it becomes joyful instead of stressful.
Rule broken: introduce yourself. No names, no jobs, no "so what do you do?" for the entire night. Four-course dinner where you could only talk about ideas, experiences, and feelings. People said it was the most honest dinner they'd ever been to.
Rule broken: keep your observations to yourself. A weekend of circling — one person in the center, the group reflects back what they notice about them in real time. Disarmingly intimate. Most people cried at least once and said it was the highlight.
Rule broken: everyone's equal. Guests took a quiz beforehand and showed up wearing a number — a secret ranking they had to figure out over the course of the night. Wild watching people's theories evolve in real time.
What People Say
I went to the Flirt Party expecting it to be cringey. Within twenty minutes I was flirting with a 60-year-old woman about soup and having the best time of my life. I don't know how to explain it. You just have to go.
David K. — Flirt Party, Sept 2025
I didn't realize how much I use my job as a crutch in conversation until it got taken away. The No-Name Dinner was disorienting for like ten minutes and then it was the best dinner party I've been to. Totally different way of getting to know someone.
Sarah M. — No-Name Dinner, June 2025
I've never had a group of near-strangers see me that clearly. The circling thing sounds like it would be awful but it's the opposite — by day two I didn't want to go back to normal conversation. Something shifts when everyone agrees to actually pay attention.
Rachel T. — Circling Weekend, April 2025
How It Works
Short application — takes five minutes. We want to know who you are and what you're looking for. There's no wrong answer, we're just making sure it's a fit.
We look at applications and figure out which events you'd be great at. When something's coming up that fits, we'll reach out.
Grab your spot and come. We've designed the whole thing so the interesting stuff happens without you having to force it.
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FAQ
People who think social norms are interesting and want to see what happens when you mess with them. The crowd is mixed — founders, artists, therapists, engineers, writers — but the common thread is curiosity and a willingness to be a little uncomfortable.
It's a short form — five minutes tops. We ask about your interests, what you're looking for, and a bit about you. There's no "right" answer. We're mostly filtering for enthusiasm and good vibes. We review on a rolling basis.
A little, at first — that's the point. But we design everything so it tips into fun fast. The discomfort is the doorway, not the destination. Almost everyone says they felt more relaxed by the end than at a normal party.
Full refund up to 30 days out. 30–14 days: 50% refund or full credit toward a future event. Under 14 days: event credit only. Life happens — we try to be reasonable about it.
Yes! They'll need to fill out their own application, but you can note that you want to attend together. Honestly, having one familiar face in the room usually makes people open up to the strangers faster.